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Posted by Garith Fulham at
3/14/2010 10:38 AM | View Comments | Add Comment | Trackbacks
Happy Birthday George!



I'm honoring George Washington's birthday by rejecting the word tolerance.

"All possess alike liberty of conscience and immunities of citizenship. It is now no more that toleration is spoken of, as if it was by the indulgence of one class of people, that another enjoyed the exercise of their inherent national gifts. For happily the Government of the United States, which gives to bigotry no sanction, to persecution no assistance requires only that they who live under its protection should demean themselves as good citizens, in giving it on all occasions their effectual support."

In a letter from George Washington to Moses Seixas from the Hebrew Congregation in Newport, RI (1790). In and around this time Washington sent similiar letters to all religious leaders in the United States to reinforce the seperation of church and state and embrace diversity.

How dare anyone have the audacity to say they tolerate you!

Peace, G

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2/22/2010 1:47 PM | View Comments | Add Comment | Trackbacks
Elect Nickie J. Antonio!



NICKIE J. ANTONIO, LAKEWOOD COUNCILWOMAN

ANNOUNCES RUN FOR OHIO HOUSE DISTRICT 13

Councilwoman Nickie J. Antonio announced her candidacy for election to the Ohio House District 13 at 4:30pm in front of Roosevelt Elementary School located at 14237 Athens Avenue, Lakewood, Ohio 44107. An experienced policy maker and advocate for working people, seniors, families, small business owners and diverse populations including members of the GLBT community, Antonio has served with distinction as a popular and responsive at-large councilmember in Lakewood for the past 4 years and was recently the top vote-getter in her bid for re-election. Antonio also enjoys strong support from labor, women, progressives, members of social change and arts communities.

“Now more than ever, our District needs experienced leadership to take the voice of the people to Columbus,” said Antonio, “ Access to Excellent Education for all children, Fixing School Funding, Jobs Creation in green and sustainable technologies, and Innovative Economic Development to stimulate our local economies are the needs of our area that drive my decision to seek this office. I am humbled by the many calls I have received from people throughout the district, asking me to run for this position,”   Antonio further stated.

Antonio is also uniquely qualified and familiar with the entire district having spent her formative years in Jay Westbrook’s Ward 18 (part of HD 13) and another 18 years of community service, owning a home and raising daughters Ariel and Stacey with partner, Jean Kosmac in Lakewood (entirely represented in HD13).

The first in her family to graduate from college, Antonio holds a Master of Public Administration degree from the Maxine Levin College of Urban Affairs at Cleveland State University and a Bachelor of Science degree in Education from Cleveland State University.  A former special education teacher, adjunct professor and non-profit administrator she has served in numerous capacities as an organizational consultant for non-profit and governmental organizations for over 20 years. Antonio currently administrates community planning in a five county region for HIV/AIDS programs.

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2/19/2010 12:25 PM | View Comments | Add Comment | Trackbacks
Don't Ask, Don't Tell...Ba Bye!


It's about time! This represents a big shift in opinions since the 
Clinton years. With both military and American citizens. Clinton
was forced into DADT as lessor of  two evils because of a weak
and shameful Democrat controlled House and Senate (1993).
Recently I saw and interview with David Gergen (former Clinton
advisor) as he reflected on the internal debate on this issue.
He said that Clinton took a vote with his military leaders,
advisors and Vice President Al Gore. The only vote against
DADT and in favor of full GLB ( no T in those days) freedom
in the military was Al Gore.

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2/3/2010 1:56 PM | View Comments | Add Comment | Trackbacks
So Long 2009

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12/28/2009 3:48 PM | View Comments | Add Comment | Trackbacks
Christmas Thought



Christmas Thought

This year has been full of loss and change for many people. Record numbers in unemployment, foreclosures and bankruptcies have changed the economical landscape of the world. Despite this, the pressure is on to buy gifts and to celebrate the holidays with gusto!

It all makes me wonder. Are we disconnected and clueless or are we looking for something that hasn't changed and we can control? Tradition doesn't usually mean change.

Tradition may be the key to happiness and financial safety through the holidays. As long as your favorite tradition isn't buying your spouse a new car every year. I know what I'm about to say is not that innovative and it may sound anti-capitalist but who cares. Some will say that this may hurt the economy more. I believe we are the economy and if we have more money after the holidays the stores that need survive will. The rest are probably heading for bankruptcy already.

What if all adults did not exchange gifts? We only buy for children to help keep the Santa story alive and for teens so they can make it through the brutal years of peer pressure. The adults save the rest of the money and have low cost gatherings full of their family and friend's traditions. Bring old photographs, share movies and recipes etc. How about, gathering all your loved ones and having a "Volunteer Day" to help people really in need? Do all the things that make us feel good about the season. Just no purchased gifts! Think about all the new traditions that could be made while honoring the old ones.

We have started doing this but I have to admit it is a hard change for some of our loved ones to commit to. I think some of them probably think we are just being cheap or we are really broke. LOL!  After all buying gifts for everyone is a tradition. 

I feel truly blessed this Christmas with all that I have despite the losses. My Z, family and friends all make life beautiful, joyful and keep the spirit of the season alive! Even if I don't get a Snuggie!

Happy Holidays!


Peace & Love, G




The Poor Man's Christmas


Mistletoe hang from the ceiling
And somehow it gets me to feeling
That the Season of Christmas is here
A time of enjoyment and cheer.

At Christmas most people feel fine
And generally have a good time
On turkey and pudding they dine
And wash it all down with red wine.

The old man spends Christmas alone
A cold, dreary shack for a home
His sole comfort on Christmas Night
A solitary candle-light.

In Christmas there isn't much cheer
If you haven't the price of a beer
With scarce little money to spend
And no one you can call a friend.

Christmas bring this man no joy
It always seem to pass him by
To this man each day is the same
He care not if Christmas never came.

This poor man unhealthy and weak
Has to live on one hundred and eighty dollars a week
Has to struggle for to make ends meet
To buy shoes, clothes and enough food for to eat.

He looks to the coming New Year
In hopeless dejection and fear,
Fear that the harsh Winter cold
Will take toll on one frail and old.

Francis Duggan

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12/23/2009 12:00 PM | View Comments | Add Comment | Trackbacks
In Loving Memory of Roger Dean Grindstaff
Our dear Roger passed away and it's to painful at this time to write about it. I'm posting his obituary and the written form of his eulogy. At some point I will update this posting and fill you all in with the craziness that took place after his unexpected death.

G




GRINDSTAFF, ROGER DEAN, 75, of Providence, passed away last Wednesday.

Born in Yakima, WA, he was the longtime partner of the late Paul Banspach and son of the late Harold and Myrtle (Covert) Grindstaff. He lived in California for 20 years before relocating to Providence 30 years ago, where he lived until his death.

Mr. Grindstaff was an executive in the transportation industry before breeding pugs as show dogs. He had many beloved pugs, but his last was Trudy. She died a day after he did and will be at rest with him.

Mr. Grindstaff served honorably in the US Marine Corps during the Korean War.

He was a dedicated volunteer at several organizations and an activist working for human rights while providing direct services for families in need.

He is survived by a brother, William Grindstaff of Washington, and a sister, Beverly Parkinson of Oregon. He was the brother of the late Audrey Bird. His extended family included Marsha Hummel, Garith Fulham and families.

Visiting Hours will be held THURSDAY 5-7 PM at the A. TARRO & SONS Funeral Home, 425 Broadway, Providence. Burial with military honors will be in the RI Veterans Memorial Cemetery, Exeter, Friday at 9 AM. In lieu of flowers, donations in his memory may be made to AIDS Care Ocean State, 18 Parkis Ave., Providence, RI 02907.



Roger D. Grindstaff Eulogy

 December 10, 2009

I think the best way for me to eulogize our dear and brilliant Roger is to just say things that you may not know about him.

Roger was born on a large working farm in Washington State where he learned to do everything that it takes to survive without much money. He mostly did things on the farm that I personally think are gross like kill a pig, kill a chicken milk a cow , kill a cow, make his own marmalade and jellies and pickle the hell out of everything …cucumbers, watermelon, peppers, okra and corn. I’m sure you get the idea.. By the way he made some of the best pickled stuff you ever had.  He loved to freak me out with his gross stories from the farm. This also were Roger learned to play the piano and guitar in which he mastered. He was very talented.

As a young man he went into the Marines and served during the Korean War. During that time he fell in love with Asian culture.  Later in life he worked the culture into his life through cooking, doing Tia chi, learning Buddhism and teaching himself Mandarin Chinese.

When Roger returned to the US he was discharged in San Francisco. This was a time when being gay even there was an issue. He told me many stories of those times. Many are not appropriate for this occasion but make me smile.

Roger had many adventures and relationships through the years and he never forgot them but instead he learned from those times and respected the life he received from them.  He viewed life as a student and never thought he was too old to learn. He had several careers ranging from owning a bus company to running a ministry.

Eventually Roger met Paul and their adventures could be a book. In their life together they loved there Pugs and traveling. They bread and showed award winning pugs throughout the country. Paul was from RI and that’s how they came to relocate here. 

Roger always reflected on those years and acknowledged that the homophobia they faced throughout scarred him but also made him stronger and I believe even wiser.

After Paul passed away it was Roger and the pugs… Pumpkin & Reno. He picked up the pieces and created a new family. Friends like Marsha and her children helped him move on.  He was always learning and moving forward.


This is when Roger made the decision to volunteer and help the community. He approached me and told me that Pumpkin and Reno were driving him nuts and he needed to get out of the house! Yes, Pumpkin and Reno were driving him nuts but it was because they were the most spoiled dogs in the world. He literally cooked them meals! They never knew what dog food was. Anyhow, I said sure and before I knew it he was working forty hours a week and running our food pantry.

I remember feeling bad for him (which I never would tell him.) In my head he needed me! As we grew into friends and we had many adventures…most of them I’m proud of, others I can’t share so not to make all of you into accessory.

Roger got to know all of my family and friends and before I knew it. He was family! Our relationship was complex to say the least.  I would bounce everything off of him and for the first time in my adult life I had a father figure. He would debate with me on things he disagreed with, and when I went out and screwed up anyway. He was there to pick me up and pat me on the back and ask me if I had learned a lesson from the situation. I always thought yes, but Roger was wise enough to ask did you learn the right lesson?

Through the years many things changed one of them was that Reno and Pumpkin died. He was really feeling alone then. So nine Christmas’s ago I gave him Trudy (a cute, sweet, little pug). Of course he spoiled the hell out of her. Making her meals and treating her like a human. She was his life in the last couple of years. She died the day after him. She is in here with him so he is not alone.

I took for granted the things he did all the time and I did not realize when he was secretly helping me.  It was not Roger that needed me but I who needed him.

Roger, I learned a great lesson! You never know who will be an angel in your life.  Thank you my dear friend and teacher. I love you!



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12/22/2009 2:37 PM | View Comments | Add Comment | Trackbacks
Salvation Army Promotes Gay Hate!
, columnist, 365gay.com

“Did you sign up to ring the bell?” a good-hearted friend asked.

She realized even before I voiced my answer that I had not volunteered to ring the bell outside our local supermarket to raise money for the Salvation Army.

And she regretted that she had volunteered to collect money for the Salvation Army, which has gone as far as lobbying the White House to obstruct efforts to treat gays and lesbians equally — as citizens and as employees.

 

Many, many good people — my friends and neighbors — ring the bell for the Salvation Army during December.

And many, many good people — my friends and neighbors — donate to the Salvation Army’s red kettles during December.

But I do not. I do not ring the bell for the Salvation Army. I do not donate to the Salvation Army, because the Salvation Army discriminates against gays and lesbians in employment, works to defeat civil rights measures that protect gays and lesbians and promotes position that gay relationships “do not conform to God’s will for society.”

Some will say, but the Salvation Army performs good work — the organization feeds the hungry, shelters the homeless, clothes the impoverished, whether gay or straight.

Yes, yet there are many other organizations performing the same work as the Salvation Army that do not discriminate against gays and lesbians, that will not use your donation against you.

From the Salvation Army’s Web site: “The Army regards the origins of a homosexual orientation as a mystery and does not regard a homosexual disposition as blameworthy in and of itself or rectifiable at will. Nevertheless, while we are not responsible for what we are, we are accountable for what we do; and homosexual conduct, like heterosexual conduct, is controllable and may be morally evaluated therefore in light of scriptural teaching.

“For this reason, such practices, if unrenounced, render a person ineligible for Salvation Army soldiership.”

I can find a charity more worthy of the stray dollar in my pocket.

I’ll tell you that I used to contribute to the Salvation Army, though I was never enthusiastic about the organization’s missionary work.

But even before the big feud between the Salvation Army and the city of San Francisco over an ordinance mandating that city contractors provide equal benefits to employees, I was made aware that the organization with a reputation for kindness did not take kindly to gays.

I was living in Missouri in the early 1990s and a women’s volleyball league was playing its games at a Salvation Army gym. One Sunday night, players arrived and found the gym locked up and dark. Salvation Army officials had been made aware that the league was affiliated with an LGBT sports association. They decided to serve the sporty servers a “get out” notice because the Army’s position is that the “sexual union leading to a one-flesh relationship is intended to be between male and female.”

Maybe, at first thought, barring 30 women from playing volleyball seems small when compared to the Salvation Army served 33 million people last year and raised about $2 billion for its programs.

But think about those numbers, think about the power of the Salvation Army. It is a massive Christian evangelical organization — with a quasi-military structure and raising $2 billion a year — and it promotes discrimination against gays and lesbians in its employment policy; at local levels of government, going so far as to threaten to close soup kitchens in New York if the city enacted domestic partnership legislation; and at the national level of government, including negotiating with the Bush administration to guarantee that faith-based groups could discriminate against gays and keep their federal funding.

We can find charities more deserving of our dollars and our volunteer time.

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Posted by Garith Fulham at
12/22/2009 2:09 PM | View Comments | Add Comment | Trackbacks
This Is Great! I'm Still Laughing!
The Colbert Report Mon - Thurs 11:30pm / 10:30c
The Word - Skeletons in the Closet
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11/20/2009 4:33 PM | View Comments | Add Comment | Trackbacks
Is Carcieri Crazy?
“I think I deserve to be married. I don’t deserve to have some partial separate but equal thing. But at the same time, I don’t want to shut the door and say we’re not going to talk about things,” she said. “The [burial rights] bill solved a very immediate problem. I think there’s other legislation like that.”
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11/18/2009 3:17 PM | View Comments | Add Comment | Trackbacks